Posts tagged ‘PROOF’

Fight or Flight instinct

Which do you tend to follow more?
I can never choose.

I’m not talking about coming across a bear in the woods, or a bully in school (in which case I say fight however you might, so long as you can win it- yes, I know that sounds very… I don’t quite know how to put it, but I have a theory behind it. All for another time). No I’m talking about coming into conflict with someone we all know and love and wish we didn’t have to fight with but sometimes… Well sometimes it really can’t be avoided.

I just got into a fight with one of my best friends.
Again.
I think she’s wrong (therefore I’m right).
She thinks she’s right (therefore I’m wrong).

But he problem is, we are both so stubborn (she can’t deny that I got that from her) in our beliefs and unless you present either of us with proof as to the truth being other than what we are fighting for we simply will not turn the other way.

The problem is she has a reputation for certain things. All of which add up to her horrid stubbornness:

1. She has a very selective memory. So she remembers what she wants to remember and not what she doesn’t.

2. She has a reputation for twisting other people’s words. When you pair this with her selective memory (and hearing at times) she is very hard to deal with. (example: we were trying to find a store someone had suggested to her. They said it was down the street on the side of the same side as Store X. SHe remembered “it is right beside Store X”. the result? we wasted 45 minutes looking for it when I was insisting that we widen our search rather than treading and retreading the 100 or so meters maybe one of them was mistaken. SHe insisted that she had heard right (sure she might have, but does that mean she understood right? selective memory and that they had said what she thought they had said… I was right. lets just leave it at that. It was about a km down the road.)

3. She also has a habit of not giving you her full attention no matter what you are talking to her about, or when, or where. and her excuse: it wasn’t a good time, I was busy, couldn’t you see I obviously couldnt hear you properly? and then she twists around you words. Or you tell her you are going to your friend’s house after school tomorrow, she says what a wonderful idea it is and then tomorrow afternoon- GUESS WHAT! she’s freaking out cause she’s thought you have been kidnapped and then gets mad at you for going out without her permission or without letting her know at least where you would be.

Then again it doesn’t help that she worries a lot.

Anyways when we get into a fight everyone else makes themselves scarce. We all do it whenever anyone gets into a fight, no matter who or about what. Its kinda like “Let them work it out and grow stronger together through it, ON THEIR OWN. LEave or risk having your head bitten of in hot blood”- an unspoken law in our household, as everyone knows to lay low and wait out the storm when they feel one brewing.

However when someone is asked to back someone else up, normally our parents go for one another, leaving the kids with the kids (not that I’m saying we are kids! We are all young adults, and act very much like it… most of the time). Not that even having the four of us agianst the two of them is much help either. Besides, we know both parties are equally biased so we don’t take any aid to account to much.

Anyways back to me. (I know this sounds really self centered…- wow deja-vu. just had to share that with you)

Anyways I always want to just walk away and let the storm blow over, tempers cool and then approach the issue in a more reasonable manor. sitting down, face to face, making sure we take turns talking because we never do…

But I also want to just stay and scream my head off at them. Gawd I hate being so stubborn sometimes.

So what do I do? Scream a little. Go take a shower (water makes me feel better. Idealy I would jump in a pool and just sit at the bottom until my heart had stopped racing and then surface- but closing my eyes and imagining a waterfall works too) and there I cry a bit (because I hate feeling the way I do then. If its bad enough to make me take a shower then it is bad. but most are. ANd I cry a bit in there too. Though I never really know if I’m crying or just sobbing.

Ironically enough the shower thing is another thing passed on through the female line in my family. My grandma always used to say that stepping out of the shower feels just like being reborn. Which I think a bit too. And yes, my mom says this all the time too. Hence the irony.

Next step, sensing when the time is right for both of you, not too soon or too long after the fight to talk sanely.

Well its getting late, she’s asleep and so I will be soon, hopefully and there you have it. More lemons thrown into the fruit cocktail that is my life.

About that, I know I promised more recipes, but here’s one for when the warm weather returns to those of us who are experiencing some near summer frosts. Take a large glass jar, or any sort of topped see through container to fill witha t least a liter of water. Place in it 4-5 (or more depending on volume of water) tea bags of your favourite selection (great opportunity to try mixing too!) Leave in a sunny spot all day long, you might have to move it with the sun. It needs at least 3 hours of good sunlight. But you should be able to tell when its ready. THe water is actually hot, if the colour dosen’t tell you enough!

Take out tea bags sqeezing tea from them for the extra deep flavour. MIx in however much sugar is to your taste. Refrigerate over night or ice. We do this all summer long and my personal favourite is Twigging Forest Berries tea. It is so refreshing made in a iced tea. And Believe me when I say my siblings and I LAUGHED when we saw commercials for NEW Twiggings iced tea. We’ve been doing it for years, sorry guys, beat ya to it. We just don’t have the money to advertise it all over the television.

Also another great use for those lemons. slice
em up and throw ’em in the jar.

There you have it, another entry in the diary that is this blog. I’m much more faithful seeing that someone is actually reading it where as my real journal, for my eyes only gets forgotten and prioritized against much to often.

Ok, I’ll try once more. GOOD NIGHT EVERYONE!

P.S. tell me what you think, fight or flight, in the comments.

P.P.S. Or you can contact me at my email: miraellarose@yahoo.com – or on Facebook at Mirella Rosaria.

Hello World- Take Two

Take two… ‘Take Five’- what a lovely song by Dave Brubeck. I HIGHLY suggest you listen to it, even if you aren’t a fan of jazz. Its simply mesmerizing .

Well my dear readers, I am titling this page “Hello World – Take Two” for a couple of reasons. Well first of all, it sounds kinda nice doesn’t it? Don’t you ever meet someone for the first time and think afterward “Geez! I made such a fool out of myself…” or whatever, and totally blow your chances with this person, either as a friend, or as a… better friend…? Well that’s sort of what I’m trying to do here. See “hello World” was supposed to be my first post, and I wrote tons for it. But everything was deleted and somehow never went up… and that page seems to get a lot of views, so I’m just gonna take another attempt at that. Also, I feel really guilty after not writing for… two days? no that can’t be right? hmmm, Sunday was the last time I posted? so… 3 days? ok somehwere round there, but Goodness it feels much longer!

So NEWS: My hand healed itself just in time for the concert. I managed to have two spotless onstage rehearsals with my piano accompanist (that doesn’t look like its spelt right but anyways… :P), and one… very good… final performance. Its that famous curse of the music world, you never want a perfect final practice. the worse that is (unless all your practices have been bad) the better your final show will be… and vice versa as seems to be the case more often than not with me.

Also… I was going to write something esle that was new… but now I can’t remember so I’ll go on.

My best friend (other than my sister) has started a blog too! Much due to my excellent persuasion skills! Ill get the link here next time for anyone else who might be interested. SHe tackles very deep problems… much deeper than you’d expect from a 15 year old. I think she want the purpose of her blog to be trying to figure out what the meaning of life really is. We have spent many sleep overs talking about this (very weird teenager girls we are, aren’t we? no gossiping and chit chatting  about menial topic for us now is there?) I’ll include some of my own thoughts on that on her blog through comments.

Oh and I should probably finish off my reviews of the two movies I was watching the other night. They were both very good. “Proof” was a bit shorter than I would have liked, and had a LOT of screaming in it, and crying. but I think it was a very good topic, and very well done. It tackled a topic that I’ve always wondered, about how do all those scientist and mathematicians come up with theories and proofs and formulas in the first place? Same with how do musicians, Especially now adays, write songs… I once heard someon say that they never wrote songs, or tried to create anything because all the good ideas have already been done, if they haven’t its because it wasnt a good idea. which is very true. Like, how come you always find something you lost in the last place you thought to look? sounds pretty pathetic and philosophical , but its simply because after you’ve found it, why would you continue thinking of places it could be??? Though it is true that sometimes you think something is somewhere but it still isn’t the first palce you go to see…

Ok, I have forgotten how that last bit was relevant, but it was… somehow sometime…

I also have a new movie review. I’ve been watching a lot of movies lately. I’ve had to relax a bit. I had been getting too worked up with school and everything else, but now that im more relaxed and thinking clearer I’ve been producing better work. (but I wont go into that today) The movie I haven’t even finished watching yet (waitng for part 11- final- to load on youtube) is the 1994 “SPEED”. I like the movie, and I think I can see myself (after the exams are over) watching the sequel and third one. It’s quite good, but not the type of thing I would normally be into. its more in my second choice category. But I like that, sometimes we need something like that every now and again.

Does anyone else out there have any good movies to suggest seeing? I’m normally really bad with pop culture and the sort (incase you haven’t figured out- meaning of life discussions and all….) and especially movies. I hardly ever go to the movie theaters, unless its a movie that is really so much better in the cinema, whats the point when you can rent it a month later, and watch it in the comfort of your own home, with your jammies and endless home made popcorn (i prefer it to theater pop corn) with your best frineds and being able to laugh as much as you want at the msot random comments that you think of in the middle of a dramatic scene, not get scolded, and then you get to rewind after you realise none of you have heard anything anyone’s said for the past five minutes becuase youve been so busy laughing your heads off…

Haha, now that I’m done advertising for home cinema companies across the globe…

It’s Tuesday, a week after that iconic post when i got my first comment!!! Annika, this post is dedicated to you for that! Thank you, I hope you see it, and look forward to any feed back you have. Oh and My mom and I made another batch of the lemon bars this weekend for a bridal shower we held today. Very nice with a beachy theme…

I also got some pictures recently from one of my cousins in Greece. They are of the burnt out bank in Athens from the riots. I will post them as soon as I figure out how. there are huge masses of candles and flowers and teddy bears for the almost life taken. Do you think its unnecessary to mourn an unborn baby’s death? I think it is, especially when its something that could have been prevented. I mean, some people say, oh whats the point, its not like the world would have been any different in 20 years if they hadn;t died, but you never know who’s going to be the one to discover a universal cure to cancer, or a way to stop CO2 emmisions or whatever life altering discovery could be made.

I once had this discussion with one of my brothers. I said, imagine how different our life would be if Benjamin Franklin hadn’t lived and been the brilliant man he was. My brother didnt think there would have been much difference. I said, but think about the number of people more that would have been affected without the lightning rod, the Empire state building never would have survived more than a few months for example. And Imagine if we didnt even have electricity! (needless to say the world’s population would probably have been much smaller). He thought someone would have made the discovery everntually, it was just up to fate to decide when and by who. But I think that if someone had discovered it later, we wouldn’t have made as much progress as we have today. I mean, ideas are like species. They evolve, develop, they morph and merge to blend into ohter ideas… and all that takes time. Just look at computers. first you have the BOMBE, the computer which cracked the German code in WWII which couldnt even fit in a regular room, and now we have these teeny tiny mac laptops which are no bigger than an exercise book… incredible isn’t it? and all that took time, for the computer to morph. first it was merely a calculator on steroids capable of doing more than just a few minor calculations, now we can play games, comunicate, type, and even draw! I mean if it werent for the evolution of the computer I wouldn’t be able to be writng this right now!However the development of the modern computer was much faster than that of implementing electricity into our homes, and even those said computers.

Well, it’s geting late, and i still have the movie, and i’ve gone so off the topic i started on i can hardly remeber what was the first sentence i wrote (yes I know I could just scroll to the top of the page, but for the… artistic quality i shant) nor what it was that I was meaning to say.

However I’m waking up early tomorrow, so should I remeber during the night, rest assured I will write another post bright and early to await all my dear readers like a cup of freshly brewed coffee… umm…

A Bientot mes cheries!

Till next we meet,

The Mira Mira on the wall: Mirella Rose

P.S. -> don’t forget to leave any comments or suggestions, and/or contact me at my email: miraellarose@yahoo.com (hence the mira mira joke) or even Facebook. My account is free for anyone to see. just type int the name Mirella Rosaria and you should find me! Cheers!

Its Saturday… Sit back, relax, and watch a feel good film.

Well everyone,

I have to write tonight. The blog is one week old. And I am officially a blogger… I think.

But I warn all, this is gonna be a bit of a short post. My hand still hurts, and when I tried to play violin today it REALLY hurt despite how I thought it wouldn’t hinder me. I had to put ice on it again; much to my annoyance. I hate being injured, held back, vulnerable, weak and all in all, just generally unhappy. All because I’m a horrible horrible klutz.  And you thought ballerinas were graceful… pfttt!

We might be, but when we are totally… well if your me… then constantly… a klutz. There’s no other way to describe it. When we were kids, I was the last one to graduate from the plastic childish, unbreakable, ME- proof cups to proper glasses. Even my twin was using a proper glass on a regular basis months and months before me…

Well I’m not going to write for too long. I want to rest it for the concert. My sister will be singing, luckily she never injures her vocal chords. Shes singing the lovely “Summer TIme” and she has a beautiful voice for it.

So anyways, Instead of doing homework or practicing violin, I’m watching back to back movies on t.v. One was “the nany diaries”. a very good feel good movie. so sweet. It was the first time id seen it. Now to contrast, is “Proof” which has just started. It seems quite dark.  But I think I will like it anyways. I will try to write more during the commercial, but right now, I want to watch…